10 Songs For Your Tween Girl

July 3, 2013 in kids and technology

songs for tween girlSongs can live in your brain, unharmed by time or circumstances, until the perfect word or note recalls them to memory.  Music can be more powerful than my soapboxes in terms of immediate influence so we carefully encourage our girls to listen to certain music. It doesn’t always work.

Still, remember the days of making mixed tapes for your friends? Those tapes were special because they reflected the interests and hopes of the giver. I always listened to mixed tapes from friends over and over again. So I am downloading a “mixed tape” of sorts from iTunes onto my daughter’s iPod. It is a collection of songs that are catchy or melodic with words I hope will melt into her brain. Before picking these songs, I shopped around for powerful girl songs. There’s Pink’s “Perfect” (Clean version) and Carrie Underwood’s “Nobody Ever Told You” or Selena’s “Who Says?” I appreciate the spirit of these songs, the idea that beauty is not just outward and that girls need to like who they are, but I think it is misleading to tell our daughters they are perfect. They are not. I am not. We have flaws. Time, accidents, and poor genetics will mess with our looks. We won’t always say the kind, loving thing. That’s why we need a savior. We are not perfect and to sing otherwise, while singing with fan-blown gorgeousness is not a message I am putting on my girl’s iPod. I’d rather give her songs of a strength that is unending, an identity that never fades, and that pushes her toward holy rather than self entitlement.

For your girls and mine here is my mixed tape that is really a prayer (this list is valid until my mood changes and I pick different songs!):

Sarah Barielles–Brave

Hawk Nelson–Words

Matthew West–Hello My Name Is

Mercy Me–Beautiful

Jonny Diaz–More Beautiful You

Toby Mac–Made to Love


JJ Heller–Your Hands or If You Fall ( I love her music and can’t decide)

Francesa Battistelli–This is the Stuff  (This particular video is super fun)

Phillip Phillips–Gone, Gone, Gone (Overplayed but much beloved by my girl right now and we can belt it out together, plus the message is unusual and refreshing)

After a reader suggestion, I am making this list 11 songs long and adding,

Britt Nicole-Gold

What songs would you give your girls?

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Chris Carter July 6, 2013 at 1:18 pm

LOVE THIS LIST!!!!! I have a tween girl, so I can’t imagine a more perfect post for me!! SO glad you were before me at sharefest… 🙂 Oh, how I love your message.


pruningprincesses July 6, 2013 at 6:30 pm

So glad you love the list, Chris! Ask your daughter, what would she add?


lisa July 19, 2013 at 7:29 pm

I had two boys 10 1/2 and 7 when my daughter was born, so you can imagine I went a little nutso with the bows, ruffles and frills…At about age 2 she began to “express” her desire to pick out her own clothes…mostly jeans and a white t-shirt…ha The only time I sort of put my foot down was for church. I would give her a choice of 2 outfits, both of which I approved and she could choose. This helped her feel a little “control” while I still maintained my “control” too. Eventually she became more flexible and enjoyed dressing up sometimes too. My main thing was modesty as well. Yeah, we had our dressing room skirmishes occasionally, but now she’s a beautiful 21 year old Godly woman and I never question her taste…much better than mine now!


pruningprincesses July 20, 2013 at 3:02 am

Lisa, I’ve been surprised by how many people have shared a similar story with me. Tastes and style will change but really I want to be the mom who can be gracious and freedom-giving in the areas that don’t really matter. I hope when my girls are 21, I can give the testimony of their lives as you have of your daughter.


lisa July 19, 2013 at 7:30 pm

That was supposed to be on the dressing blog…not the music one..sorry


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