Songs can live in your brain, unharmed by time or circumstances, until the perfect word or note recalls them to memory. Music can be more powerful than my soapboxes in terms of immediate influence so we carefully encourage our girls to listen to certain music. It doesn’t always work.
Still, remember the days of making mixed tapes for your friends? Those tapes were special because they reflected the interests and hopes of the giver. I always listened to mixed tapes from friends over and over again. So I am downloading a “mixed tape” of sorts from iTunes onto my daughter’s iPod. It is a collection of songs that are catchy or melodic with words I hope will melt into her brain. Before picking these songs, I shopped around for powerful girl songs. There’s Pink’s “Perfect” (Clean version) and Carrie Underwood’s “Nobody Ever Told You” or Selena’s “Who Says?” I appreciate the spirit of these songs, the idea that beauty is not just outward and that girls need to like who they are, but I think it is misleading to tell our daughters they are perfect. They are not. I am not. We have flaws. Time, accidents, and poor genetics will mess with our looks. We won’t always say the kind, loving thing. That’s why we need a savior. We are not perfect and to sing otherwise, while singing with fan-blown gorgeousness is not a message I am putting on my girl’s iPod. I’d rather give her songs of a strength that is unending, an identity that never fades, and that pushes her toward holy rather than self entitlement.
For your girls and mine here is my mixed tape that is really a prayer (this list is valid until my mood changes and I pick different songs!):
Francesa Battistelli–This is the Stuff (This particular video is super fun)
Phillip Phillips–Gone, Gone, Gone (Overplayed but much beloved by my girl right now and we can belt it out together, plus the message is unusual and refreshing)
After a reader suggestion, I am making this list 11 songs long and adding,
What songs would you give your girls?