Book: Moms’ Ultimate Guide to the Tween Girl World

September 27, 2012 in books,Nancy Rue

Moms Ultimate Guide to the Tween Girl WorldAnother book, this time for moms, by my favorite tween writer, Nancy Rue. I should write her and let her know how much I promote her books. Maybe we could have a giveaway? Moms’ Ultimate Guide to the Tween Girl World by Nancy Rue was a needed read for me. I love learning that I am not alone in my open-mouthed awe at the mood swings in my girl. After each chapter I sighed and thought, “Whew! My daughter is not the only one.”

If you are raising a tween girl, this book is for you. If Christianity defines your worldview, you will like the book even more.  I especially recommend it if the hormonal mood swings caught you by surprise in how early they started ( Rue’s stats say the average girl starts puberty at age 9, eight if she is African American). If your husband is baffled by your tween girl, he might want to read What Happened to my Little Girl? The Dad’s Ultimate Guide to His Tween Daughter by Nancy Rue and her husband (hoping my hubby will review this book but Mr. Math teacher doesn’t love writing).

The book covers everything on four main topics from a Christian perspective, Bible verses included: Identity, Beauty, Puberty, and Friendship. The section titles show off Rue’s understanding of parenting this age. The Identity section is titled, “I Tell Her to be Herself, But She Doesn’t Know Who She Is.”

Rue has worked for 35 years with tween girls, either writing for them, hanging out with or raising one. In most chapters she  quotes tween girls directly a few times. The quotes cut to the heart of the issue like this quote from the chapter called,” Is She Herself or Is She You?”

I wish my mom understood my personality better, the way I do things, and not get mad at me if I don’t do it her way. That would save us a lot of fights.

By reading this book I realized the depth to which my issues affect my girls (Rue offers multiple questionnaires in the book for moms to do self evaluations on topics like beauty or eating). It helped over-analyzing me relax as she defined the range of normal behaviors and encouraged prayer.

Rue does an amazing job of counseling moms and the different personalities of their daughters. She addresses shy girls, perfectionist tendencies, over-scheduled girls, bullied girls, girls who are the bullies, etc. I appreciated the recognition that no girl and no mom share the same personality.

The only thing that annoyed me in this book was the regular references to other books she has written. It was too much, too often.  The quality of this book far outweighed the one annoyance.  I am glad I read this book and plan to return to a few times in the coming years (maybe every year). It isn’t a book you need to read straight through, you could try a buffet style if you are busy. It would be  a great read for a group of moms.

Other posts about Nancy Rue’s books

Teach your girl how to appeal your no

 Book Series for Tween Girls

Learning about beauty, in a healthy way

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Kristin September 27, 2012 at 4:34 pm

Thank you for this. I AM raising a tween girl…and man it’s HARD. I’ve put this on my wish list, I can use all the help I can get!


pruningprincesses September 27, 2012 at 5:36 pm

Kristin. It is hard. I am so thankful that babies are much simpler and that we get to ease into puberty, but it still shocks us! I actually found this book at my local library!


Jolene September 29, 2012 at 11:21 am

I’m not a mom – but I am a teacher, and I work at all levels (primary, elementary, middle, & high). The most challenging is always middle school. It’s my favorite level, because this age group needs so much from us as teachers and parents. I see a lot of negative behaviors, but then I see girls with remarkable ability to be kind, loving, mature, responsible young ladies. And their mothers have SO MUCH to do with it. Thanks for sharing this resource.
Stopping by from SITS Saturday ShareFest! 🙂 Have a great weekend!


pruningprincesses September 30, 2012 at 1:43 am

Oh Jolene, your comment made my heart sing. Thank you for the encouragement. I used to be a teacher too, in high schools. Your job is so important. Thank you for what you do.


misssrobin September 29, 2012 at 2:38 pm

Sounds like a book I could have used a few years ago. My kids are 14-21 now, so mood swings have become the norm. Irritating though they are, we’re kind of used to them. If you thought the tween years were hard, good luck with your daughter at 17. That’s been a rough one each time for us. Junior year is usually the worst. But it will pass.

Happy Sharefest. Have a great weekend.


pruningprincesses September 30, 2012 at 1:40 am

I don’t know whether to thank you for your comment or to pretend I didn’t read it. I guess it is just reality. I knew the moodiness would come, I just thought it didn’t start until 12 or 13.


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