Another book, this time for moms, by my favorite tween writer, Nancy Rue. I should write her and let her know how much I promote her books. Maybe we could have a giveaway? Moms’ Ultimate Guide to the Tween Girl World by Nancy Rue was a needed read for me. I love learning that I am not alone in my open-mouthed awe at the mood swings in my girl. After each chapter I sighed and thought, “Whew! My daughter is not the only one.”
If you are raising a tween girl, this book is for you. If Christianity defines your worldview, you will like the book even more. I especially recommend it if the hormonal mood swings caught you by surprise in how early they started ( Rue’s stats say the average girl starts puberty at age 9, eight if she is African American). If your husband is baffled by your tween girl, he might want to read What Happened to my Little Girl? The Dad’s Ultimate Guide to His Tween Daughter by Nancy Rue and her husband (hoping my hubby will review this book but Mr. Math teacher doesn’t love writing).
The book covers everything on four main topics from a Christian perspective, Bible verses included: Identity, Beauty, Puberty, and Friendship. The section titles show off Rue’s understanding of parenting this age. The Identity section is titled, “I Tell Her to be Herself, But She Doesn’t Know Who She Is.”
Rue has worked for 35 years with tween girls, either writing for them, hanging out with or raising one. In most chapters she quotes tween girls directly a few times. The quotes cut to the heart of the issue like this quote from the chapter called,” Is She Herself or Is She You?”
I wish my mom understood my personality better, the way I do things, and not get mad at me if I don’t do it her way. That would save us a lot of fights.
By reading this book I realized the depth to which my issues affect my girls (Rue offers multiple questionnaires in the book for moms to do self evaluations on topics like beauty or eating). It helped over-analyzing me relax as she defined the range of normal behaviors and encouraged prayer.
Rue does an amazing job of counseling moms and the different personalities of their daughters. She addresses shy girls, perfectionist tendencies, over-scheduled girls, bullied girls, girls who are the bullies, etc. I appreciated the recognition that no girl and no mom share the same personality.
The only thing that annoyed me in this book was the regular references to other books she has written. It was too much, too often. The quality of this book far outweighed the one annoyance. I am glad I read this book and plan to return to a few times in the coming years (maybe every year). It isn’t a book you need to read straight through, you could try a buffet style if you are busy. It would be a great read for a group of moms.
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