Fuel and a confession

March 14, 2013 in Blog,fuel

Imperfect blogger

Zoobles, a toy my daughters loved. But they always wanted more of them.

Dear Moms,

I must confess that for some time, I’ve been caught up in the 10 steps to a perfect blog. Must post at least 3 times a week, must have beautiful images, images must be pinnable, must link up to as many linky parties as possible, must find guest writers, must optimize for search engines,  must respond to comments, must have an active acccount on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and whatever social media is brewing for tomorrow, must stand on my head and sing. I pursued blogging excellence. And it was fun. And time consuming.

Then I started homeschooling. And my girls, they are around all the time. And they need my guidance and attention. And writing slips to sidelines because it too takes energy and instead I spend my morning cuddled on the couch teaching math. Those bloggers who blog regularly and homeschool, I’ve decided they are either more disciplined than me or have someone who can give them time to think about their writing which is an entirely different kind of thinking than to-do list thoughts. Unless God gives a regular break giver, I am giving myself permission to be an imperfect blogger. And to rest in the idea that when I need to share something, God will give the time. If I post once a week, that’s okay.

ZooblesThose sentences were so easy to write, so simple. But really, I’ve struggled because  I don’t want to step back from blogging. One part of me wants to ignore my mommy duties and  pursue it until I am great at it with hundreds of followers and a little income could be generated. Another part wants to focus on my girls only, knowing they won’t be around forever. I can write later.

I believe that if I encourage just one mom today, that is enough.  But many days I want more, like the my girls always wanted more Zoobles. Satan likes to use “more” to keep us discontent. Perhaps in laying my pride and selfish ambitions  before you, I can defeat the ” more” disease.  I know “more” will never satisfy because it is infinite.  And I want it all, all the time necessary to pour into my girls, all the time needed to keep up the house and the cooking, and all the time needed to write daily and regularly and intelligently. And if I had it all, my list would not end in contentment but in the creation of new “more” list.

Time to step back and keep my priorities in perspective.

Friends, will you keep reading even though I might post sporadically and break best blogging practices? The best way to keep track of me is through email subscriptions or an RSS feed. I enjoy Facebook and post there regularly but they keep changing their formula for deciding who of my “likes” gets to see my stuff. So follow me on Facebook only if you know how to foil their algorithms.

Seeking ContentmentToday, let’s return to the roots of Pruning Princesses and share some fuel written by someone else. Because they remind of of what is important. And these are posts I will return to, again and again.

  • First, a post by a writer in Iowa who has two girls, the exact same age as mine. Her girls’ ages make me love her without reading her work but read her note to her girls, 15 Things I Want My Daughters To Know, and you will love her too.
  • Two recent posts have helped me know how to be a better friend to moms who struggle with things I haven’t gone through.Angela shares how to help a friend going through infertility here and Michelle shares “10 Ways To Help A Mom in Mourning” here

Happy reading. And tell me, what kind of “be more” do you struggle with?

( Special thanks for Triptych photo for the images)

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{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

Belinda March 14, 2013 at 12:35 pm

The “more time” thing is a killer for me.
By the way, the Zooble on the right in the top picture looks like it’s arms are crossed and it’s pouting. You are a talented photographer!


pruningprincesses March 14, 2013 at 4:03 pm

Thanks Belinda. And the pictures, there is a note at the bottom of the post giving the photo credit to my friend Stephanie. Did you meet her at MOPS? SHE is a talented photographer.


Shelly Miller March 14, 2013 at 12:36 pm

Yes, I get this. How blogging can take over your life if you try to be perfect at it. And what is perfect anyway right? I think of a quote by Amber Haines often, “my blog is not the boss of me.” I think you are being wise and God will take care of the details, whether we “do” everything right or not.


pruningprincesses March 14, 2013 at 4:05 pm

Another confession: you know that thrill you get when someone you admire stops by and encourages you or says hello. That’s the feeling I got when I saw your name on my blog comments. Thanks for the encouragement.


joanna March 14, 2013 at 1:13 pm

I’ll keep reading! Do what’s needed for your girls in this season.


pruningprincesses March 14, 2013 at 4:02 pm

Love you too. Hope all it well.


Rachel B March 14, 2013 at 1:55 pm

Love this authentic post!


pruningprincesses March 14, 2013 at 4:02 pm

Thank you. Sometimes when I am truly honest, I panic about the response!


michelle @ this little light March 14, 2013 at 2:02 pm

Oh, Laura, what a compliment you’ve paid me. Thank you for sharing that post. Truly, it healed me even further to write it all down. God bless you for putting it in front of your readers.



pruningprincesses March 14, 2013 at 4:01 pm

Michelle, I LOVED your post. I have friends who have lost children and I am never sure about the best way to be their friend. Your post helped me.


Mothering From Scratch March 14, 2013 at 2:20 pm

{Melinda} You have chosen the best option! I quit blogging for a while because I just couldn’t devote to it like I wanted to. Then I came back with Kathy and we still don’t do it perfectly … life and kids often intervene. And that’s okay. We were called to be mothers long before we were called to Mothering From Scratch.

I will read as long as you keep posting — whenever that is. Your thoughts are always worth reading. 🙂


pruningprincesses March 14, 2013 at 4:01 pm

Thank you Melinda, I feel hugged. I must say though, you two are in so many places in mommy cyberworld that it feels like you have it all together!


Adventure Girl March 15, 2013 at 11:53 am

I love your authenticity…which is why I read. I’d keep reading even if you only posted once a month. Welcome to the world of finding your balance while homeschooling! Last year was my first year, and I could barely get groceries let alone find time for myself. It gets easier to prioritize the second year (because you are forced to drop the unnecessary things or go mad…I’m not suggesting that your writing is unecessary either ).


pruningprincesses March 15, 2013 at 6:24 pm

Oh wow. Thank you for the encouragement. I want to call you up and find out what you do and how you do it. I know I can’t stop writing because I spend much of my days writing in my head. I think I might go crazy if I gave it up completely.


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