Give your Man Time For Friends

April 27, 2012 in boys,Five Minute Friday

It’s Friday. Time for my favorite writing exercise of the week. Want to play Five Minute Friday? It’s easy! 
1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking
2. Link back here and invite others to join in.
3. Meet & encourage someone who linked up before you.

OK, are you ready? Give us your best five minutes on: Community.

Raising kids shoves out our need for community. Staying home, focusing on family, drives women together. And women, given time, will push toward vulnerability after the first one takes the risk because women love to see real.


Every Friday my husband meets with friends at Tim Hortons ( a northern fast food joint known for coffee and doughnuts). They stay for hours when schedules allow, talking forcefully and fast. They would offend me if I was present for I don’t enjoy the art of powerful opinion defending. They come with agendas, this is going on in my life, does this scripture apply? They bluntly point out each other’s sins and laugh from the belly and probably scare some customers to their cars. This community of men is so different from the one I share with women, but life giving all the same.


I know staying home with kids is crazy good and crazy hard. And the need to have another adult around is strong. God made us all for community. It should be a defining feature of our Christian walk. But over the years I’ve noticed wives striving for community and men not having as much, whether they are tired from working or feel guilty about leaving the family again or just don’t know where to find it. So wives, give your husband a blessing to leave the family, push him out the door with a kiss. Encourage him to find a community of men, because we need both communities: family and friends.

Note: After my 5-minutes was up, I went looking for photos of men hanging out. On the different image sites I use, I couldn’t find one, except for men at a business lunch in ties! 

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Alicia April 27, 2012 at 10:27 am

Oh, I agree! Our men NEED community, too. I’ve always counted girlfriend time as a HUGE gift that comes with staying home- that choice allows me to meet friends at the park and talk while our little ones play, to take long walks with buddies even though we’ve got a stroller brigade, and to linger in BIble studies or MOPS groups with other women. But my man? Can’t remember the last time he hung with a crew of guys. Thanks for reminding me to pray about that and encourage it. Have a great weekend!

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Heidi Kreider April 27, 2012 at 2:49 pm

You are an incredible wife!! Kudos to you for encouraging community for him!

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Kerri S April 27, 2012 at 3:08 pm

I so agree! Men need a close group of friends to be authentic with….just as much as we women do!!
Great post!!
*sidenote* up here in Canada..we love our “Timmy’s” coffee! Great place to find many forms of community hanging out!!
Have a blessed weekend, Laura!!

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Nikki April 27, 2012 at 6:24 pm

What a blessing to your husband–that you thought of him and his needs when prompted with the word community!
so true…my husband and I talked about this just last night because he was invited to an evening out with men and didn’t want to leave the family “home alone”. But they’re better home when they’ve been filled back up by community, aren’t they! (and he went.) 🙂

Enjoy your weekend, Laura!

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M April 29, 2012 at 4:34 am

HAHA, my hubsters grandpa and his buddies meet at Timmies every morning to solve the worlds problems as well! They call it the Senators Club.

Great Post!

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Kathy May 10, 2012 at 8:53 pm

I totally agree. I think the more I encourage my husband to spend time with other men that it benefits his life and our marriage. Great encouragement!!

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Denise J. Hughes May 11, 2012 at 10:38 pm

You are so right! Men need time with other men too.

And I don’t enjoy the art of powerful opinion defending either. (I loved that line.)

Great post!

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