No hug sobs

April 13, 2012 in Five Minute Friday,friendships,God Bumps

We moved to Montana in January. Fourteen hours from our nearest family or friend. January. February. March. April. Winter is long in Montana. Potential friends hide inside unaware of your presence when there is snow on the ground.

In May we started regular trips to the playground. When snow was on the ground, desperate for an outing, we’d visited, but no one joined us. Spring meant light jackets and more kids. Bird could see a family had already arrived. She propelled her 3 year-old feet forward so fast I was sure she would fall face first. Her grin matched the width of the Montana sky and she laughed as she ran.

For five minutes our time with that other family overlapped. And Bird was instantly smitten, sure she found her new BFF. And then the mother apologized, but they had to go.

Bird looked at her new BFF. She reached out to hug her. And that BFF? Well, she wasn’t the hugging type. Despite prodding from her mom, the new BFF only hid behind her mother’s legs. And Bird, stood strong. For 5 seconds. Then began to wail. The other mom, horrified, apologized and shrugged at the same time. They just met, she thought, that girl is out of control. The loud, embarrassing wailing eventually led to a ┬áto a command to get into the stroller for the long 3 block walk home. Playground time would only be 5 minutes that day. But the wailing walk? 10 minutes.

Over and over that spring, Bird made instant friends, wanted hugs good bye and broke into loud sobs if the new friend would not comply. Her love was instant and deep. She hadn’t yet learned to hold back some of herself to protect her heart. Perhaps we should all love that way?

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Eva Trillian April 13, 2012 at 10:19 am

Perhaps we should!
But it hurts.So we don’t.
Sad really!


kkhphotos April 13, 2012 at 12:29 pm

If only everyone would greet people so nicely. Thanks for stopping by and making my SITS Day so awesome!


redemptionsbeauty April 13, 2012 at 1:24 pm

I admire kids like your Bird. The way they give themselves so generously, unreserved. My family is reserved. My kids would have hidden behind my legs but it is the ones like yours that invite us into community when we might otherwise miss it. Lovely post.


Rachel Wojnarowski April 13, 2012 at 1:51 pm

I am all about that! Just started reading “Love Does” by Bob Goff. New release. Sounds like your baby. Have a blessed day!


Positively Alene April 13, 2012 at 2:55 pm

Kids are so resilient. As a military family we moved A LOT. My kids always made their way LONG before this mama did. It’s beautiful how they are accepting of new adventures and people. Blessings friend.


Michele {A Life Surrendered} April 13, 2012 at 3:49 pm

May your precious Bird find her heart protected by the Guardian of her soul as she loves fearless.



Kerri S April 13, 2012 at 6:36 pm

sounds like a little one who wears her heart on her sleeve. i love how some children have no fear in new situations
blessings friend


Nikki April 13, 2012 at 6:40 pm

Oh, I can hardly stand it. So proud of your Bird for unabashedly sharing her whole heart.
I’m with you. oh to gain some of our childlike faith back. even in matters of the heart.

beautiful 5 minute write!


Heidi Kreider April 14, 2012 at 3:50 am

I laugh… at 43, I’m much like Bird’s friends… not so into the hugging part of being a BFF. ; )

Thanks for stopping by and leaving kind words today!


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