The age of unwelcome

October 5, 2012 in Five Minute Friday,lessons for daughters

Kids in the kitchenWelcome is a word for young children and mothers. Tweens and teenagers have chased it from their vocabulary so they can focus on themselves. Do you remember the world? No amount of coaxing can move these mini-adults into a room where they fear being unwelcome. It could be the true exclusion of the teenage crowd. Or just uncertainty because the unknown girls in the corner are laughing and whispering (about me? she wonders).

Like most notable character qualities, moms must teach their kids to be welcoming. Welcome is an anomaly of admirable qualities because as small children, welcomeness  was instinctive. Squeals of delight and outstretched sticky hands were instant and uncontrollable. Later, hormones, mean kids, and self-doubt erase the abandoning kind of welcome. Thank goodness for mothers who remind us to stop whispering in groups, to remember a friend’s food allergy and to smile at the new kid while offering some food. This refined welcome replaces the abandon.

And while we mourn the wild welcome of toddlers, do we really want our teenage girls to greet people with slobbery kisses and refusals to let go of legs? Jesus welcomed others, of all races and sexes into his inner circle, with gentle eyes (of this I am sure), and kind words, and many times extra food. Pray with me that our children will learn to welcome.

Joyfully writing with friends today for 5-minutes of writing abandon at Lisa Jo’s. Won’t you join us? The word today? Welcome

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HopeUnbroken October 5, 2012 at 10:52 am

yes, and this is the daily challenge! teaching our kids the skill, the gift, the ART!!! showing by example, right? but then it takes practice, and that takes time, and intentionality. so many things to help our kids toward in this growing-up process. 🙂
but all for the right reasons–to show His love to others.
have a blessed day!
steph

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richelle @ "our wright"-ing pad October 5, 2012 at 11:21 am

“Welcome is an anomaly of admirable qualities because as small children, welcomeness was instinctive. Squeals of delight and outstretched sticky hands were instant and uncontrollable. Later, hormones, mean kids, and self-doubt erase the abandoning kind of welcome. Thank goodness for our mothers who remind us to stop whispering in groups, to remember a friend’s food allergy and to smile at the new kid while offering some food. This refined welcome replaces the abandon.”

powerful word picture today. glad i saw your thumbnail and decided to pop over for a visit from 5mf. been a few weeks since i’ve been by!

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Nikki October 5, 2012 at 1:12 pm

Oh this lost art…I worry about it often. but that doesn’t do any good.
striving with you to be the example our children need. To welcome unabashedly….

loved your write, Laura! (and those sandwiches look divine!) 😉

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pruningprincesses October 7, 2012 at 9:53 am

Nikki, it is so good to see you! The sandwiches were divine. Gourmet grilled cheese with avocados. My youngest loves to cook and hosted her first dinner party not too long ago–her dad helped her. I dislike the kitchen. =) Have a blessed week.

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Lisa October 6, 2012 at 12:32 pm

Your post is thought-provoking and also kindred to my heart for tweens and teens. Thanks for linking up today.

Blessings, Lisa
http://www.moretobe.com / http://www.pnpcoaching.com

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pruningprincesses October 7, 2012 at 9:44 am

Hi Lisa. I am thrilled to meet you and plan to spend some time soon exploring your amazing blog. I love meeting like-minded bloggers!

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