What if she rejects Jesus?

November 2, 2012 in Faith that Shines,Five Minute Friday,kids and faith,lessons for moms

Was I failing? This little girl of mine was not only refusing to ask Jesus into her heart, but she was unsure of what she believed. What 7-year-old child rejects her parents’ beliefs? Wasn’t that for the older, more turbulent years of high school and college? Don’t most kids from Jesus-following homes accept him before they can ride a bike?

I wondered. I prayed. And even though a call to the grandparents telling them my girl had accepted Jesus was desirable and honestly, expected, I admired her spunk. I admired her desire to think through this serious decision. I admired her questions. I wanted her faith, when it came to have deep roots, that enabled her stand in the storm. I kept thinking of those seeds scattered by the farmer and which kind of soil I wanted my girl to be.

I hadn’t planned on exploring Islam and Judaism and Buddhism with my girl so young. She could barely understand. But we explored those subjects through the library and compared them to Jesus. Because my observant girl had noticed from her diverse friends at school who followed other faiths, that “someone had to be wrong” and that her muslim friend’s parents appeared to be believing as strongly in their faith as we did in ours. And she saw the problem. She said she couldn’t follow Jesus unless she was sure He was True.

And I marveled at her wisdom and tenacity and observation. And I prayed for the seed to fall on good soil and make deep roots. I prayed that answered questions so young would help with the questions that come later on. And I let go of my preconceived ideas of how a child in a Christian home finds faith and we explored together, her looking for answers and me trusting my God to help her find them.

Taking 5 minutes today to write what is on my heart on the word: Roots. If you think you might be blessed by doing the same or reading the words of other friends who do, head over to Lisa Jo’s.



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denise November 2, 2012 at 12:10 pm

Thanks for sharing, bless you.


Blond Duck November 2, 2012 at 12:15 pm

That’s so wonderful you let her explore!


Eileen November 2, 2012 at 1:01 pm

What a perceptive young girl. I think that’s a good thing. Great post.


pruningprincesses November 2, 2012 at 4:59 pm

Hi Eileen. So nice to “meet” you. She is crazy perceptive and I was so surprised at some of my “am I failing?” reactions because really, I don’t want her to accept my faith because I say. I want her to know, in her heart, that it is true. Happy Friday!


WICK November 2, 2012 at 3:12 pm

Definitely a great moment. What shallow roots exist when it’s simply offering our children heaven or hell, and then being excited when “gasp, they chose heaven!”. May more parents take the time and patient love it takes to really explore who God is with their children…and may you never stop. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!!!


pruningprincesses November 2, 2012 at 5:01 pm

Thank you for your kind words. Sometimes when I write, I worry people won’t “get” what I am saying, that they will take the sin within the story and misunderstand. You clearly understood. And every mama needs encouragement. Thank you!


Jenn LeBow November 2, 2012 at 6:16 pm

I love it that you are going there with her and not getting defensive or autocratic. Your girl is a bright one, and it’s so much better for her to learn early that questions and seeking out answers will not separate her from the love of Christ. Life is full of tough questions and I love seeing moms (and dads) who encourage kiddos to explore them! Way to go. Thanks for sharing.


pruningprincesses November 2, 2012 at 11:31 pm

Thank you for the encouragement, Jenn. I had to refuse not to give in the voices of panic that said, “No one else has to do this with their kid.” And how, months later, my youngest has chosen to follow Christ. And I am confident it is real and genuine. I am so glad she wasn’t afraid to voice her questions. Thanks for visiting.


Becky Daye November 2, 2012 at 7:47 pm

I am realizing that this is the most heart wrenching part of parenting- wanting your kids to accept truth, but knowing that they need to accept on their own terms not ours. There is so much wisdom demonstrated here. I love that you were not afraid to talk about other religions, but I am amazed that she had the ability to question it. That IS roots going deep and it is a beautiful thing!
Thank you for sharing- I always leave your blog encouraged!


pruningprincesses November 2, 2012 at 11:25 pm

Becky, Waiting IS hard. And just now I was thinking of how I am waiting for my older girl to WANT to have daily scripture study, to see that as important. Waiting and praying. I didn’t mention in my post though that my girl, after a summer of studying other faiths and a God-encounter with a wise old man, did decide to follow Jesus. It was extra sweet.


April November 2, 2012 at 11:53 pm

Thank you again for sharing! I love hearing stories of how you raise your girls because I admire you as a woman of God. I feel so young in my faith that sometimes I just don’t know what to do. And this is actually one of my fears, that my children won’t choose God. I’m glad I’m not the only one. Knowing you and how you (and your husband) raise your girls, I would naturally assume that of course they would choose to follow Christ, they’ve had a wonderful lifelong example of Christlike grace and love. I have felt that because we didn’t start off “right” that something is wrong and we have to work extra hard to show Christ to our kids (expecially our oldest) But I know that it’s a choice SHE has to make, not us. So thank you for showing me that it’s okay to “explore” other religions to learn and make a wise decision. And of course, I pray for her everyday.
I apologize that sometimes my words don’t come out as well as I’d like. I think I sound scatterbrained sometimes 🙂 I sure do miss seeing you and listening to your wisdom and thoughts at bible study! I’m so glad though that I still get to listen to you through your blog!


pruningprincesses November 3, 2012 at 11:48 am

April, You have no idea how encouraging your comment is. What a blessing that God can use technology to connect us. I miss running into you regularly and your bright, sweet attitude for life. And your words, they make perfect sense. I understood all that you said. I don’t think every kid needs to explore other religions, not at such a young age. But Handley is the most diverse school I’ve ever seen and she was constantly exposed to other ideas. How are you? How is your littlest one? Are you homeschooling?


April November 3, 2012 at 2:14 pm

Ahhh…homeschooling. No. Mackenzie said that she didn’t want to go to school because she’s so shy and didn’t want to have to make new friends. We decided it would be better to have her go to school to ‘stretch’ her. I am however, supplementing at home. The school she’s at is nothing compared to her school last year (academic wise) so she is extremely ahead of everyone in her class. She does enjoy school now (even though she had to make new friends 🙂 ) but she also enjoys the “homeschool” that we have after she gets home. We’ll see where God leads us next year and her schooling just might change. 🙂 Isaac is well also. He’s growing incredibly fast. Maybe it seems faster to me because I know he is our last baby. I am enjoying him though. He’s extremely social and just loves to “talk” with me and anyone else who will sit and converse with him.


Nikki November 3, 2012 at 8:18 pm

What a wise daughter you’re raising, friend. so proud of her.
and you’ve watered that soil well…it’s rich with nutrients. she’ll spread with understanding and love and grow like wildflowers ; )


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