When two sides don’t see the same truth

November 8, 2013 in Faith that Shines,Five Minute Friday


Truth, in all its rightness, hides. I want it to be as straightforward as those old worksheets, “Write F for Fact or O for Opinion.”

Tears stream down her face and she can’t speak. “Moom, (hiccup) she said she wishes she wasn’t my sister.”

I sigh knowing what is coming. We’ve played this scene so many times and I can’t make the ending change.

I console the tearful one while trying to discover her role in the skirmish. “Nothing, I just picked up her iPod. I gave it back when she asked for it.” Okay, perhaps tween emotions had gotten the best of big sister.

Five hugs later, I find big sister. “What just happened between you and your sister?”

“Mooom, she took my iPod and I asked for it back three times. She danced around the room with it and wouldn’t give it to me. She is so annoying.”

“Did you tell her you don’t want to be her sister?” She looks genuinely shocked.  Hmmm. Usually, the older one is the most reliably truthful. Who is the best actress here? Eyes are making direct contact.

“I would  never say that. ”

Over and over again these two are unable to agree on what happened (light bulb: maybe I should sit them together on the couch and not allow them to get up until they both agree on the script of the fight?) . Who is lying? Who is confused? Who isn’t listening? Who is assuming? As the official referee, too often I don’t know how to call the penalty.

And yet, as I write I realize , the obvious truth of Christ eludes people we love, who hear the same sermons, read the same scripture, grew up in the same house. Our response? It shouldn’t be my characteristic angry frustration, but prayer, the unlocker of truth, the veil lifter.

Joining Lisa Jo and word lovers for a five minute ( I think mine was more like 7 minutes today…oops) write on Truth. Join us? 

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Sabrina Houser November 8, 2013 at 11:55 am

Siblings, only sisters can make you feel like you have a forever friend and a forever enemy at the same time. I am sure you hear it all the time, but a day will come when their love is all that matters. They will always protect each other and look out for one another. In the meantime, grab your whistle and get ready to do lots of refereeing. Sisters are tricky, but in the end, their love wins.


pruningprincesses November 8, 2013 at 5:26 pm

Oh Sabrina, I needed to read your words. I am an only child and sister fighting stresses me tremendously. Thank you.


Rabia @TheLiebers November 8, 2013 at 3:50 pm

The same story plays out at my house on a regular basis! There’s his story, her story and the truth somewhere in the middle. I like your idea of sitting them down together to find the common story. I might give that a try next time!


pruningprincesses November 8, 2013 at 5:23 pm

I think I might try it too. I love to write. It’s relaxing and sometimes, like today, it uncovers a new way of thinking about old problems. Thanks for stopping by.


Katina November 8, 2013 at 5:02 pm

I have two girls! Gaaahhhhhh, I have been here! Prayer changes things! Thanks for the reminder!


pruningprincesses November 8, 2013 at 5:24 pm

Hi Katina,
Every time I see you comment I think, Oh how I wish I could dance with her! Yes prayer. That’s the only option right now. But the couch idea…it just might work. For me, writing can be a prayer.


Tiffany November 9, 2013 at 2:20 pm

You are so right! I act as a referee as well with my Girlies and they are only 4 and 6. One is very sensitive while the other is very much a roll off her back kinda girl. I often need to explain how you have to be concerned about another’s feelings and how what you say may hurt them even if you don’t mean it to. The same is true with our lives as Christians. It can be all about how a person perceives your words…

Thanks for sharing! Happy SITSSharefest!


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