When you fall short….

November 1, 2013 in Faith that Shines,Five Minute Friday

As a new high school age believer, I thought grace was straight forward, simple. Jesus forgave us for our sins because he loved us.

The powerful teaching duo of marriage and parenting taught me otherwise.

There was the day I realized I was judging the women in the check out line based on the contents of their cart. Hypocrisy reveals the absence of grace so this lesson came when I was buying frozen and prepared meals for a week I knew I couldn’t possibly cook.

There was the day I was yelling at my kids for the multitude of messes in the houses.  Walking into my own bedroom, with my clothes flung over the bed railing and socks hidden in the sheets, I realized the girls do as they are shown and I modeled messes and putting off the picking up, so they imitated. And really ? I was yelling at my shortcomings in miniature form.

There are the days when I list the ways I want my husband to do things differently. Sometimes I add Bible verses for power. And then God prompts my memory that though I too do a hundred little things that annoy my husband, he never complains- not when dinner isn’t prepared, not when his laundry sits folded in his basket for a month, and not when the house looks like a tornado struck for a whole week.

Then there are the days when all my lessons collide and my failures to extend grace overwhelm me. The power of the word and the awesomeness of being loved anyway by the creator of the world bring me to grateful tears. The hardest part though isn’t accepting God’s grace, it’s extending it myself. Grace isn’t a lesson for Sunday school 8-year-olds to be memorized. It’s word with nuisances and corners and new lessons are part of the refining. I am so glad that grace’s refining doesn’t happen all at once.

Linking up with wordsmiths and Lisa Jo to explore the complex word GRACE, in five minutes. Join us? 

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Lisa Joiner November 1, 2013 at 11:37 am

You are so right; the difference between accepting God’s grace and extending said grace to our family, store clerks, fellow man…wow, the two are a world apart. Nice entry!


Sharon November 1, 2013 at 1:45 pm

Loved reading this. I can so relate to being upset about my kids’ messes, because they learned that from me! Frustrating. Yet there is grace. Thank God for grace!


Becky Daye November 1, 2013 at 5:18 pm

Oh, friend! Yes- that powerful duo teaches so much doesn’t it?!!! I couldn’t agree more with your last line- I am so thankful for the refining once I have walked through, but boy am I glad it is a process!!
Great post as always!!


jamie@kreyv November 2, 2013 at 1:51 pm

Wow, what a beautiful blog, and I just love this post. It was a great reminder! I think that as moms, we are sometimes quick to “help” our family members with reminders (sometimes I may or may not nag!). Great message! Visiting from SITS. I’d love for you to enter my giveaway: http://tocrave.blogspot.com/2013/10/elemenopillows-giveaway.html

Have a great weekend!


Heather N November 2, 2013 at 1:55 pm

I love your blog! Visiting from FMF community – and as a fellow mom of two daughters (twin three-year-olds), I will be adding your blog to those I follow. Great thoughts here. Thank you.


pruningprincesses November 8, 2013 at 5:32 pm

Hi Heather, Sorry I am so slow to return your comment. I am glad you enjoy the blog-I love writing it though finding time this year is challenging. I started it partly because we used to be in college ministry and now those girls we nurtured are all young moms and I so wanted a mentor as a young mom. I can’t be near those sweet women anymore but I do share with them. Twin 3-year-olds sound challenging, but for you, the challenge is a completely different kind than it will be in 8 years ( my girls are 9 and 11). Relish it all. Thank you for your kind comments.


Leslie November 4, 2013 at 1:35 am

What a great reminder. We are all working on that aren’t we? The constant refinement of our hearts toward God’s will and accepting his Grace? There are some times that I just need to depend on His mercy and know that He understands the sorrow I feel for my shortcomings. Tomorrow is always another day.


pruningprincesses November 8, 2013 at 5:29 pm

Yes, tomorrow is another day and so is the next hour….Accepting grace and living it are life-long lessons.


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